Feminizing Your Office Crossdresser Tips

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to tell if a man or woman occupies a space? In most instances you can make the distinction immediately, but maybe you can’t lay your finger on exactly what elements comprise those differences. Read on to discover what nuances and minor touches you can add to your work space to give a more feminine impression.

Leave Personal Care Items Out

Feminizing your office immediately is as simple as leaving your personal care items in plain site on your desk. Items such as hand cream, emery boards, tube of lipstick or chap stick and snack bars/fruit have high impact in a subtle way. A sweater on the back of your chair or an extra pair of heels under your desk reinforces that a woman is occupying the space.

Use Feminine Desk Accessories

This seems like a no-brainer, but how you store your generic office items really makes a world of difference in the distinction between masculine and feminine. Women tend to display a lot more items than men do, giving a more cluttered feel to the space. If you usually keep your pens, scissors and stapler in a drawer, feminize your office by putting items in a cup on top of your desk instead. The cup doesn’t have to be covered in flowers, it could be a plain glass jar, just setting them out creates a feminine atmosphere. Other more feminine things to display include girly tissue boxes, softly coloured binders, desk calendar with lovely photos or inspirational quotes, some little knick-knacks and nice baskets to store your loose papers.

Display office items in a cup

Feminize your Office with Living Things

Women are nurtures. Add a living element to your space to heighten the sense of a woman being there. It could be as simple as a cactus or small houseplant or more complex like a Betta fish in a bowl or vase with a plant. If you can’t keep a plant alive or aren’t allowed to keep pets in your office, get a plastic plant instead, it still gives the same illusion that you are caring for something. Just be sure to dust it regularly and actually care for it!

 

Bring your Family & Friends into the Decor

Post your child’s artwork somewhere in your office where others can see it. If you have a home office, put it up where you can see it and change it regularly. You can also add photo frames on your desk or a shelf. When selecting a frame, choose a light colour like white or cream and one with rounded, soft edges. The subject matter of the photo should include a fun time with friends, family members or your pet.

Display your child’s art

Write Non-Work Related Stuff on your Calendar

Women write everything on their calendars! Write other people’s birthdays, write “My Birthday!” on your own birthdate! Make to do lists or doodle on the edges. Women even mark their calendar with a private symbol that means they started their period. When someone glances at your calendar, it should have at least 5 non-work related items on it per month.

Display Quotes and Inspiration

This has got to be one of the most feminine things you can add to your work space. And of course, you can’t just have one! You need a whole bunch of cluttered inspiration hanging off your computer screen, inside a cabinet door and tacked onto your bulletin board. Choose quotes or mantras that speak to you and pair them with images that inspire. If you don’t know how to get started, purchase a daily tear-off calendar and slowly build up a collection of your favourites. Stick them all around you and never take them down, just add, add, add! Other things you can display might be ticket stubs, postcards, notes from other people or other peoples’ business cards.

Display photos, quotes, memorabilia on your bulletin board

As you can see, there are a lot of subtle ways to add femininity into your personal work space. If you follow these simple tips, feminizing your office will be easy! Leave your tips in the comments area below!

 Take the next step on your feminization journey with an office feminizing analysis! Contact Lesada for this service today!

 

 

Dating Tips for Crossdressers

Dating Tips for Crossdressers

Let’s face it: Dating is tough. Dating is stressful. Dating sometimes makes you just want to stay single. These feelings can multiply if you are a crossdresser or are transgender. But there is definitely hope. Many couples enjoy a successful relationship that includes crossdressing. There are several key factors that were put in place to have this success. Read on to find out how you can enrich your dating life and give your whole self to a new relationship.

Know Yourself

Before you put yourself out there in the dating world, get to know yourself. Dating sites ask key questions on a profile builder and you need to know those answers! Have some hobbies and interests, create memories and experiences so you have exciting stories to share. Be involved in your community or career. If you want to find Mr. or Ms. Right, it’s only fair that you become Mr. or Ms. Right. If you are down and unhappy or projecting negativity into the world it will show on your profile and you will be passed over whether you are a crossdresser or not. People want to date fun people!  If you aren’t in a happy place, get help from a coach to change your perspective.

Be Open

All successful relationships that include crossdressing attribute this success to being open and honest. If you are hiding some aspect of yourself because you think it is shameful, then others will deem it to be shameful. Crossdressing is very common and is not shameful. It is a part of who you are and if you want someone to love you completely, you have to give them the opportunity to know you completely. Openness is a must for all relationships. If you enjoy crossdressing regularly, you may want to include some of your photos on your profile. Just as someone may enjoy running marathons or cooking or playing roller derby, you enjoy crossdressing and your photos should be a good indication of those interests.

Don’t Talk About Sexual Interests

Even if you are into crossdressing purely for sexual enjoyment, you do not need to reveal this to a potential partner in the beginning. People get turned off by sexual discussions when you haven’t even met or had an intimate encounter. You may feel this is an important part of being open, but in the beginning it’s not at all. If you want a long-term, loving relationship with someone, you need to know them first. It’s important to first find out if they can carry on a conversation, if you have similar interests, if you even get along. Once the chemistry is there and you want to share yourself more intimately with someone, you can lead up to sexual fantasies. A good rule to follow is do not talk about sex with someone until you have actually had sex with them!

Be Ready to Answer Questions

Dating is a chance to get to know a potential partner before making a commitment to be exclusive. If you reveal your feminine side to a potential partner, be prepared to answer questions and make sure your answers are cast in a positive light. Don’t be down on yourself or belittle yourself. Tell them why you love it, get excited about who you are and explain how it’s going to create a better relationship between the two of you. People shy away from the unknown. If you answer questions that your partner has, they will be more understanding and accepting. Be sure to tell your date any major future feminine plans (for example if you want GRS), so they are prepared and can ask more questions before making a decision about your future together.

Ask the Right Questions

Numerous times, I have been asked “Would you date a crossdresser?” This is absolutely not the make or break factor when it comes to dating. That’s like asking “Would you date a mountain climber?” I have absolutely no idea. Do they make me laugh? Are they good with kids? Do they have a job? Do they like going to antique markets? Because those things are all important to me too. Ask questions to find out what your date enjoys and if you enjoy those things too.

Date Outside of “Your Type”

I was looking for a classy, clean-cut man but I met someone who has a long beard, tattoos on his head and has no clue what a charcuterie board is! But, we are a hit and engaged to be married! Don’t be so stuck on a certain look or type of person that you miss out on an amazing potential partner. In a way, you are possibly asking your dates to date outside of their type with you, so give others a chance for yourself.

Live in the Moment

Often when dating, people get caught up in the future. People worry about distance and how would it work in the long term. Or people wonder if their friends and family would like their date. People also worry about getting married. None of those things matter when you are just dating. If you like someone and they like you back, all those other factors will just naturally sort themselves out. The Universe will align to allow what’s right for you to fall into place. When dating, live in the moment, enjoy the present with your partner and have fun being you as you get to know who they are.

With these elements in place, you will have fun, live in the moment and enjoy dating with a new perspective! Be you! Have fun! Enjoy Dating!

Comment below on your dating experiences and successes. What helped you find a partner or what struggles are you facing? Do you have any funny stories to share? Let others reader know in the comments below.

How To Pack Like Pro

How to Pack Like Pro

How To Pack To Keep Your Pretty Things Pretty

Let’s face it, crossdressers have secret, pretty things hidden away in a duffle bag in the back reaches of their closet! But wouldn’t it be lovely if your items were still beautiful and not a dusty, wrinkled mess after being in storage? Here are a few tips on how to pack like a pro to keep your pretty things pretty!

Your bag should be large enough to hold everything, with several exterior and interior pockets. Separate your shoes, jewellery, cosmetics, wigs, clothes, padding into appropriate storage within your bag. 

How to Pack Everyday Items

  • How to Pack Shoes: Put shoes in a velvet shoe bag or an exterior pocket. Shoes will be protected from dust. Everything else in your bag will be protected from getting poked by a high heel!
  • How to Pack Small Items: All make up, jewellery, hair & nail accessories, scarves, pantyhose, slips, panties, etc can be stored in a cosmetic roll up bag.  It’s amazing how much these roll ups hold! Find what you are looking for quickly in a bag with clear pockets.
  • How to Pack cosmetics: Cosmetics should be stored in a cosmetic roll up bag as well. Divide everything into the different pockets in categories. Foundations, concealers and blush in one pocket; eye makeup in another; lipstick in a third and disposable applicators, sponges, Q-tips, brushes, etc in the last pocket. Everything will be clean, organized and you will save tons of time by not searching for things when you are getting dressed.
  • How to Pack Clothes: Carefully wrap all clothing in tissue paper and roll tightly. This not only saves you a ton of space, but, when done carefully, minimizes many wrinkles. There’s nothing worse than finally being able to slip into that silky blouse and finding it a wrinkled disgrace. Look for synthetic fabrics that are wrinkle-resistant.

How to Pack Feminization Items

  • How to Pack Wigs: Wigs should be kept in a pretty, decorative cardboard box or zip closure bag. Place a wad of tissue paper inside the cap of the wig, wrap a hairnet around the entire wig. Pack tissue paper around it before placing in the bag or box.  Do this to minimize static and keep your wig from becoming crushed or tangled.
  • How to Pack Padding: Silicone breast forms and other pads should be wrapped in bubble wrap and placed in an interior or exterior pocket in your duffle bag. Keep them away from high heel shoes or disaster could strike!
  • Add a photo album to your bag with photos of yourself or inspirational photos to help you when you are looking to add to your secret bag.

With these basic practices in place, you will love unpacking your secrets and will feel pretty in the process! Take care of your lovely things and honour them in the way they deserve.

Creative Ways to Save Money!

Creative Ways to Save Money

Creative Ways to Save Money!

“A penny saved is a penny earned” is an old phrase that encourages us to save money and become wealthy. But these days most people are spending more than they are earning, falling into debt, depression and anxiety. These feelings lead to more spending as they try to make themselves feel better. If you feel like you’re walking on a tight rope, balancing between just getting by and falling into a bottomless pit, read on for some great tips to improve your finances and your well-being.

Examine All Your Expenses

Write every single thing down that you spend money on in the course of a week or month. You will see patterns and some things may surprise you. Do you have expenses coming out of your account automatically that you no longer need? Do you spend more than you thought on eating fast food or coffee? Are you more generous than your budget allows when it comes to lending money to a friend or donating? Really examine those expenses and determine what can easily be cut or pared down. Sometimes even the chore of having to write down small expenses will be a deterrent to spending on little, draining things.

Bundle to Save

If you found that you were spending money on a lot of insurance, home services (such as internet, cable, phone), classes or magazines, bundle to save! Get a subscription to our favourite magazine instead of buying from a store, use the same provider for insurance and home services as they usually give a discount for multiple products. And get a membership to your gym, pool or dance studio instead of paying for individual classes. You can usually save a ton of money by being loyal to the services, products and companies you already enjoy.

Shop Around

If your attempts at bundling with current services didn’t work, shop around to get a better deal elsewhere. Shop around for groceries, clothes, shoes, home decor, car repairs and so on. Pretty much everything can be purchased second hand or at discount stores. Often the thrill of finding a deal can improve your state of mind as well as your bank balance.

Improve Your Health

Improving your health and mental wellbeing can greatly increase your cash flow. When you’re depressed you can’t work as well, you might even need to take time off work for your health which reduces your income and to save money. Poor health leads to taking costly medications for cholesterol, blood pressure and diabetes. Eating out at fast food restaurants instead of preparing meals at home is also a big knock to the bank account. Examine your health habits and find ways to cut costs as well as your waistline.

Seek Help from a Professional

Visit your bank or get advice from a financial advisor if you are serious about saving money. These are free services designed to help you get out of debt and into saving and living  worry free about money. They will help you stick to your budget, save and pay down debt all at the same time. Do not be embarrassed by your situation. 

Share Your Successes

It’s really motivating to share what’s going well! Comment below on how you saved money or increased your income.

 

 

Top 5 Tips to a Healthier You!


Top 5 Tips to a Healthier You!

With Spring right around the corner, our thoughts turn to spending time outdoors, becoming more active, and oh-no! getting rid of winter flab! Don’t panic, 90 days is all it takes to buckle down and change your routine towards living a healthier life! If you’re not sure where to start, read on for 5  simple, free tips to reduce bloating, curb cravings and boost your energy! It’s not always what we eat, but HOW we eat that can make all the difference.

 

Chew, Chew, Chew, and Chew Some More!

Most people only chew their food 3 times before swallowing. Our saliva contains enzymes that help to break food down and allow our bodies to absorb nutrients. If you only chew a couple times then swallow, you won’t have the benefit of these enzymes. Your stomach will then have to work harder to break your food down and you won’t get those energy-boosting nutrients. If you only chew a couple times, you also run the risk of experiencing bloating, cramping and IBS. Chew your food at least 15-20 times before swallowing.

Eat With All Your Senses

While you are chewing, be mindful of the taste, texture, smell and visual appeal of your food. Many people eat mindlessly, shoving food into their mouth while watching tv, scrolling through Facebook or driving. When you start considering your food more mindfully, you may discover that unhealthy, boxed or pre-packaged meals have little taste, and are unappealing. By simply being mindful of what you put into your body, you will automatically start to make healthier, more conscious choices for yourself.

Think First, Eat Later

Have you ever been so hungry you could eat anything? When we are starving, we will grab at anything-a box of crackers, a bag of chips, fast food, and so on, just to satisfy the hunger. But if you plan ahead, at least an hour before you are actually hungry, then you will make much healthier choices. Meal planning and preparation will make a huge impact on your health plan and will contribute greatly to reducing unhealthy snacking, sugar cravings and will definitely boost your energy and excitement around your new healthy lifestyle.

Tune In To Your Body

Every magazine has a different headline as to what diet or exercise routine is best. But really, your own body knows what is best for you. Listen to that little craving your body has for movement. Maybe it’s as simple as stretching for a few minutes after you wake up and before lunch. Maybe your body wants to ride a bike like when you were a kid or splash in a pool. However your body wants you to move, honour that!

Find an Accountability Partner

It’s so easy to slip into old patterns if we don’t set ourselves up for success. Think of yourself as a pioneer, cutting a new path through unmapped territory. It’s going to be difficult at first, but as you continually make your way down the same path, those obstacles will be removed and the path will become easier. A partner or coach can help you navigate obstacles, set goals and keep you on track towards your health plan. 

Are You Still Craving More?

If you are really ready to change your health for the better and make a positive impact on your life, book your FREE Breakthrough Discovery call with LesadaHealth. During this 30 minute call, you will find out what has been holding you back from achieving your goals, develop a new action plan that you can get excited about and have some powerful breakthrough moments surrounding your current beliefs. BOOK YOUR FREE CALL NOW!