Dating Tips for Crossdressers
Let’s face it: Dating is tough. Dating is stressful. Dating sometimes makes you just want to stay single. These feelings can multiply if you are a crossdresser or are transgender. But there is definitely hope. Many couples enjoy a successful relationship that includes crossdressing. There are several key factors that were put in place to have this success. Read on to find out how you can enrich your dating life and give your whole self to a new relationship.
Before you put yourself out there in the dating world, get to know yourself. Dating sites ask key questions on a profile builder and you need to know those answers! Have some hobbies and interests, create memories and experiences so you have exciting stories to share. Be involved in your community or career. If you want to find Mr. or Ms. Right, it’s only fair that you become Mr. or Ms. Right. If you are down and unhappy or projecting negativity into the world it will show on your profile and you will be passed over whether you are a crossdresser or not. People want to date fun people! If you aren’t in a happy place, get help from a coach to change your perspective.
All successful relationships that include crossdressing attribute this success to being open and honest. If you are hiding some aspect of yourself because you think it is shameful, then others will deem it to be shameful. Crossdressing is very common and is not shameful. It is a part of who you are and if you want someone to love you completely, you have to give them the opportunity to know you completely. Openness is a must for all relationships. If you enjoy crossdressing regularly, you may want to include some of your photos on your profile. Just as someone may enjoy running marathons or cooking or playing roller derby, you enjoy crossdressing and your photos should be a good indication of those interests.
Don’t Talk About Sexual Interests
Even if you are into crossdressing purely for sexual enjoyment, you do not need to reveal this to a potential partner in the beginning. People get turned off by sexual discussions when you haven’t even met or had an intimate encounter. You may feel this is an important part of being open, but in the beginning it’s not at all. If you want a long-term, loving relationship with someone, you need to know them first. It’s important to first find out if they can carry on a conversation, if you have similar interests, if you even get along. Once the chemistry is there and you want to share yourself more intimately with someone, you can lead up to sexual fantasies. A good rule to follow is do not talk about sex with someone until you have actually had sex with them!
Be Ready to Answer Questions
Dating is a chance to get to know a potential partner before making a commitment to be exclusive. If you reveal your feminine side to a potential partner, be prepared to answer questions and make sure your answers are cast in a positive light. Don’t be down on yourself or belittle yourself. Tell them why you love it, get excited about who you are and explain how it’s going to create a better relationship between the two of you. People shy away from the unknown. If you answer questions that your partner has, they will be more understanding and accepting. Be sure to tell your date any major future feminine plans (for example if you want GRS), so they are prepared and can ask more questions before making a decision about your future together.
Ask the Right Questions
Numerous times, I have been asked “Would you date a crossdresser?” This is absolutely not the make or break factor when it comes to dating. That’s like asking “Would you date a mountain climber?” I have absolutely no idea. Do they make me laugh? Are they good with kids? Do they have a job? Do they like going to antique markets? Because those things are all important to me too. Ask questions to find out what your date enjoys and if you enjoy those things too.
Date Outside of “Your Type”
I was looking for a classy, clean-cut man but I met someone who has a long beard, tattoos on his head and has no clue what a charcuterie board is! But, we are a hit and engaged to be married! Don’t be so stuck on a certain look or type of person that you miss out on an amazing potential partner. In a way, you are possibly asking your dates to date outside of their type with you, so give others a chance for yourself.
Live in the Moment
Often when dating, people get caught up in the future. People worry about distance and how would it work in the long term. Or people wonder if their friends and family would like their date. People also worry about getting married. None of those things matter when you are just dating. If you like someone and they like you back, all those other factors will just naturally sort themselves out. The Universe will align to allow what’s right for you to fall into place. When dating, live in the moment, enjoy the present with your partner and have fun being you as you get to know who they are.
With these elements in place, you will have fun, live in the moment and enjoy dating with a new perspective! Be you! Have fun! Enjoy Dating!
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