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How To Pack Like Pro

How to Pack Like Pro

How To Pack To Keep Your Pretty Things Pretty

Let’s face it, crossdressers have secret, pretty things hidden away in a duffle bag in the back reaches of their closet! But wouldn’t it be lovely if your items were still beautiful and not a dusty, wrinkled mess after being in storage? Here are a few tips on how to pack like a pro to keep your pretty things pretty!

Your bag should be large enough to hold everything, with several exterior and interior pockets. Separate your shoes, jewellery, cosmetics, wigs, clothes, padding into appropriate storage within your bag. 

How to Pack Everyday Items

  • How to Pack Shoes: Put shoes in a velvet shoe bag or an exterior pocket. Shoes will be protected from dust. Everything else in your bag will be protected from getting poked by a high heel!
  • How to Pack Small Items: All make up, jewellery, hair & nail accessories, scarves, pantyhose, slips, panties, etc can be stored in a cosmetic roll up bag.  It’s amazing how much these roll ups hold! Find what you are looking for quickly in a bag with clear pockets.
  • How to Pack cosmetics: Cosmetics should be stored in a cosmetic roll up bag as well. Divide everything into the different pockets in categories. Foundations, concealers and blush in one pocket; eye makeup in another; lipstick in a third and disposable applicators, sponges, Q-tips, brushes, etc in the last pocket. Everything will be clean, organized and you will save tons of time by not searching for things when you are getting dressed.
  • How to Pack Clothes: Carefully wrap all clothing in tissue paper and roll tightly. This not only saves you a ton of space, but, when done carefully, minimizes many wrinkles. There’s nothing worse than finally being able to slip into that silky blouse and finding it a wrinkled disgrace. Look for synthetic fabrics that are wrinkle-resistant.

How to Pack Feminization Items

  • How to Pack Wigs: Wigs should be kept in a pretty, decorative cardboard box or zip closure bag. Place a wad of tissue paper inside the cap of the wig, wrap a hairnet around the entire wig. Pack tissue paper around it before placing in the bag or box.  Do this to minimize static and keep your wig from becoming crushed or tangled.
  • How to Pack Padding: Silicone breast forms and other pads should be wrapped in bubble wrap and placed in an interior or exterior pocket in your duffle bag. Keep them away from high heel shoes or disaster could strike!
  • Add a photo album to your bag with photos of yourself or inspirational photos to help you when you are looking to add to your secret bag.

With these basic practices in place, you will love unpacking your secrets and will feel pretty in the process! Take care of your lovely things and honour them in the way they deserve.

Creative Ways to Save Money!

Creative Ways to Save Money

Creative Ways to Save Money!

“A penny saved is a penny earned” is an old phrase that encourages us to save money and become wealthy. But these days most people are spending more than they are earning, falling into debt, depression and anxiety. These feelings lead to more spending as they try to make themselves feel better. If you feel like you’re walking on a tight rope, balancing between just getting by and falling into a bottomless pit, read on for some great tips to improve your finances and your well-being.

Examine All Your Expenses

Write every single thing down that you spend money on in the course of a week or month. You will see patterns and some things may surprise you. Do you have expenses coming out of your account automatically that you no longer need? Do you spend more than you thought on eating fast food or coffee? Are you more generous than your budget allows when it comes to lending money to a friend or donating? Really examine those expenses and determine what can easily be cut or pared down. Sometimes even the chore of having to write down small expenses will be a deterrent to spending on little, draining things.

Bundle to Save

If you found that you were spending money on a lot of insurance, home services (such as internet, cable, phone), classes or magazines, bundle to save! Get a subscription to our favourite magazine instead of buying from a store, use the same provider for insurance and home services as they usually give a discount for multiple products. And get a membership to your gym, pool or dance studio instead of paying for individual classes. You can usually save a ton of money by being loyal to the services, products and companies you already enjoy.

Shop Around

If your attempts at bundling with current services didn’t work, shop around to get a better deal elsewhere. Shop around for groceries, clothes, shoes, home decor, car repairs and so on. Pretty much everything can be purchased second hand or at discount stores. Often the thrill of finding a deal can improve your state of mind as well as your bank balance.

Improve Your Health

Improving your health and mental wellbeing can greatly increase your cash flow. When you’re depressed you can’t work as well, you might even need to take time off work for your health which reduces your income and to save money. Poor health leads to taking costly medications for cholesterol, blood pressure and diabetes. Eating out at fast food restaurants instead of preparing meals at home is also a big knock to the bank account. Examine your health habits and find ways to cut costs as well as your waistline.

Seek Help from a Professional

Visit your bank or get advice from a financial advisor if you are serious about saving money. These are free services designed to help you get out of debt and into saving and living  worry free about money. They will help you stick to your budget, save and pay down debt all at the same time. Do not be embarrassed by your situation. 

Share Your Successes

It’s really motivating to share what’s going well! Comment below on how you saved money or increased your income.



Top 5 Tips to a Healthier You!

Top 5 Tips to a Healthier You!

With Spring right around the corner, our thoughts turn to spending time outdoors, becoming more active, and oh-no! getting rid of winter flab! Don’t panic, 90 days is all it takes to buckle down and change your routine towards living a healthier life! If you’re not sure where to start, read on for 5  simple, free tips to reduce bloating, curb cravings and boost your energy! It’s not always what we eat, but HOW we eat that can make all the difference.


Chew, Chew, Chew, and Chew Some More!

Most people only chew their food 3 times before swallowing. Our saliva contains enzymes that help to break food down and allow our bodies to absorb nutrients. If you only chew a couple times then swallow, you won’t have the benefit of these enzymes. Your stomach will then have to work harder to break your food down and you won’t get those energy-boosting nutrients. If you only chew a couple times, you also run the risk of experiencing bloating, cramping and IBS. Chew your food at least 15-20 times before swallowing.

Eat With All Your Senses

While you are chewing, be mindful of the taste, texture, smell and visual appeal of your food. Many people eat mindlessly, shoving food into their mouth while watching tv, scrolling through Facebook or driving. When you start considering your food more mindfully, you may discover that unhealthy, boxed or pre-packaged meals have little taste, and are unappealing. By simply being mindful of what you put into your body, you will automatically start to make healthier, more conscious choices for yourself.

Think First, Eat Later

Have you ever been so hungry you could eat anything? When we are starving, we will grab at anything-a box of crackers, a bag of chips, fast food, and so on, just to satisfy the hunger. But if you plan ahead, at least an hour before you are actually hungry, then you will make much healthier choices. Meal planning and preparation will make a huge impact on your health plan and will contribute greatly to reducing unhealthy snacking, sugar cravings and will definitely boost your energy and excitement around your new healthy lifestyle.

Tune In To Your Body

Every magazine has a different headline as to what diet or exercise routine is best. But really, your own body knows what is best for you. Listen to that little craving your body has for movement. Maybe it’s as simple as stretching for a few minutes after you wake up and before lunch. Maybe your body wants to ride a bike like when you were a kid or splash in a pool. However your body wants you to move, honour that!

Find an Accountability Partner

It’s so easy to slip into old patterns if we don’t set ourselves up for success. Think of yourself as a pioneer, cutting a new path through unmapped territory. It’s going to be difficult at first, but as you continually make your way down the same path, those obstacles will be removed and the path will become easier. A partner or coach can help you navigate obstacles, set goals and keep you on track towards your health plan. 

Are You Still Craving More?

If you are really ready to change your health for the better and make a positive impact on your life, book your FREE Breakthrough Discovery call with LesadaHealth. During this 30 minute call, you will find out what has been holding you back from achieving your goals, develop a new action plan that you can get excited about and have some powerful breakthrough moments surrounding your current beliefs. BOOK YOUR FREE CALL NOW!




Combat Dress-Down Let Down

How to Combat Dress-Down Let Down


Last month I wrote about the awesome experience of getting dressed up, going out and not getting “caught”. If you missed that story, you can read it here.

But, coming home and having to return to reality really sucks! Here are some tips from readers like you on how to combat Dress Down Let Down.

Honour Yourself

* Don’t just stuff your things into a bag or the back of the closet. Take 1/4 of the time you spend dressing, to pack everything away neatly again.

* Set a definite date for your next feminine experience while you are still dressed.

* Keep something in your wallet that symbolizes your feminine side, as a reminder for you to honour yourself.

Remind Yourself

* Leave one little thing on, such as a ring, toe nail polish, panties, etc that will keep the feeling alive for you.

* Take pictures while you are dressed so that you can look at them anytime.

* If you were out with a friend, ask them to call/text/email you a little emoji or photo so you can keep the memories alive. Or, you can schedule a text or email to yourself as well. (try the lipstick, high heel, shopping bags or dress emojis)

Love Yourself

* It’s not shameful to be yourself, so be grateful you had the opportunity to be yourself for awhile and don’t focus on the dressing down part.

* Proudly display or use things that are considered more feminine (women’s magazines, a change purse, flowery shampoo, pink razor, etc)

* Appreciate and honour the women in your life and be grateful they have shown you a love of femininity.


If you follow these simple tips, you will keep that special feeling alive and your true self will spill over into your everyday! Don’t Let Dress Down Let Down get you down anymore!


Turning Phases into Passions

“It’s Just A Phase”…

This line, often spoken condescendingly about children who are exploring a new pastime or interest, means they “will grow out of it” and move on to another interest in a couple days or weeks.

But really, phases are very natural and necessary to our growth. The moon has phases, seasons change and we evolve.

Even in adulthood we have phases.

Over the last few years I went through many fashion phases. There was the phase when I discovered Just Fab shoes and I got a new pair of shoes delivered every other month. Until I realized my closet was overflowing with ridiculously high heels that I couldn’t really have fun in! Then there was the scarf phase and the vintage hat phase…I just had to buy them all!

In doing those things, though, each phase brought me more self confidence. The shoes made me stand out in a crowd. People approached me to talk and I lost my shyness. The scarves and hats also caught the eye of others in a positive way and I received lots of compliments and envious stares. I was pulling off something they weren’t brave enough to attempt.

Passions are Phases Evolved

Sometimes our “Phases” never subside. They are an ingrained part of us and we can’t shake them no matter how hard we try. Those are the “Phases” we should never fight, because that is who we truly are. That is our passion!

When we have found our passion, we become masters of our interests.We stay in the “Phase”, but stretch our knowledge and experiences to continually refine that part of ourselves.

Are you Passionate about something? Maybe it started as a slight interest or even a vague curiosity and has never left your being. What is it you truly desire?

Are You Feeling Stuck in Your “Phase?”

People who are Passionate, will experience a feeling of being stuck. If you are a business owner, parent or are trying to evolve your life into who you truly want to be, you are bound to get stuck at times.

This is natural and it’s at this point where we need to find that new “Phase” to help us evolve, grow and revive the passion that we were feeling in the beginning.

If you know your passion is inside you, but aren’t sure what your next “phase” is, book your 60 Minute Life Clarity Call at Lesada.

During your Life Clarity Call, you will gain insight as to what your next step should be, develop an action plan to get you there, as it fits into your everyday life and also learn how to appreciate how far you have traveled on your journey already!

Your 60 Minute Life Clarity Call is only $73.50 CAN + tax. There is no need to feel stuck! Revive the passion that is inside youand set out on the next step towards living your true life!

Out of the Closet: Relationship Tips for Crossdressers and Transgender Women

Out of the Closet: Relationship Tips for Crossdressers and Transgender Women

Dresses, skirts, lingerie and shoes – where do you put all the shoes?! It doesn’t take long for a closet to fill up. The more cluttered it gets, the harder it is to tell what’s there and what fits beautifully on you.

The same can be said for the metaphorical closet. The longer you keep yourself hidden, the harder it is to see who you really are. That is a great loss to yourself and to your partner. Hiding who you are takes a lot of energy that is better spent on keeping the sparkle in your relationship and enriching your experiences in life. Hiding who you are also causes a lot of stress and unnecessary strain on you and your relationships.

If you are concerned that your secret life will hurt someone you care about, or that they will think less of you, consider instead that they are missing the opportunity of knowing the truly beautiful person you are. You are actually robbing them of the opportunity to love you completely.

The exciting thing about being in love is wanting to know everything you can about the person who makes your heart sing. You want to know their private intimacies, how they think, what turns them on, their history and story that made them who they are. You want to know these things because you love them and want to give them the best. Why would they not want the same of you?

I encourage you to love yourself first. Loving who you are, without shame, loving the whole you, frees your spirit so you can grow to be all that you are meant to be. What a gift to give yourself! What a gift to give your partner!

There are far too many crossdressers and transgender women in the closet. I have heard enough stories about secrets, but I have also heard many stories of success. Secrets hurt and indicate shame. Being yourself is not shameful. It’s time to come out of the closet, clear the clutter and make room for more shoes!


Here are some tips from couples on how to incorporate your feminine side into a successful, loving relationship:

  • Great journeys begin with a single step. If you have a huge fantasy of being a woman, full time with your wife, but you haven’t told her yet, start small! Do little things to gradually work up to your goal. Start by painting each other’s toe nails for example. Baby steps, baby steps.
  • Tell her you love her. Assure her that you love her as well as yourself, and that you will be a better partner to her if you don’t have secrets. Let her know that she is still the love of your life, even if you are seeking new friendships.
  • Compromise. Don’t push your partner to go beyond what she is willing to do. This may take a lot of getting used to on her part, especially if you’ve been the same in the relationship for many years.
  • Make it fun! People continue to do things when they are having fun, so be playful and loving while she discovers this new side of you. Maybe she could dress up and be someone different as well while you are en femme. Private secrets between just you too can be very fun!
  • Find friends. Join groups online, attend events or conferences that are non-sexual in nature so she can be assured that you aren’t deviating from your relationship with her.
  • Encourage her to seek out friends who are also in crossdressing/transgender relationships. Crossing Paths is a group just for her.
  • Seek a coach or mediator to guide you through this new phase of your relationship

A secret space in London, Ontario where dreams come true

A secret space in London, Ontario where dreams come true

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The tiny garage at the end of Leanne Dargie’s driveway is utterly unremarkable. On the outside it appears to be a standard storage shed and nothing more.

But blending in often means hiding what’s really on the inside – something that Leanne, the owner of Lesada, knows all too well. Within this humdrum exterior exists a discreet makeover service for cross-dressers and male to female transgenders.