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Turning Phases into Passions

“It’s Just A Phase”…

This line, often spoken condescendingly about children who are exploring a new pastime or interest, means they “will grow out of it” and move on to another interest in a couple days or weeks.

But really, phases are very natural and necessary to our growth. The moon has phases, seasons change and we evolve.

Even in adulthood we have phases.

Over the last few years I went through many fashion phases. There was the phase when I discovered Just Fab shoes and I got a new pair of shoes delivered every other month. Until I realized my closet was overflowing with ridiculously high heels that I couldn’t really have fun in! Then there was the scarf phase and the vintage hat phase…I just had to buy them all!

In doing those things, though, each phase brought me more self confidence. The shoes made me stand out in a crowd. People approached me to talk and I lost my shyness. The scarves and hats also caught the eye of others in a positive way and I received lots of compliments and envious stares. I was pulling off something they weren’t brave enough to attempt.

Passions are Phases Evolved

Sometimes our “Phases” never subside. They are an ingrained part of us and we can’t shake them no matter how hard we try. Those are the “Phases” we should never fight, because that is who we truly are. That is our passion!

When we have found our passion, we become masters of our interests.We stay in the “Phase”, but stretch our knowledge and experiences to continually refine that part of ourselves.

Are you Passionate about something? Maybe it started as a slight interest or even a vague curiosity and has never left your being. What is it you truly desire?

Are You Feeling Stuck in Your “Phase?”

People who are Passionate, will experience a feeling of being stuck. If you are a business owner, parent or are trying to evolve your life into who you truly want to be, you are bound to get stuck at times.

This is natural and it’s at this point where we need to find that new “Phase” to help us evolve, grow and revive the passion that we were feeling in the beginning.

If you know your passion is inside you, but aren’t sure what your next “phase” is, book your 60 Minute Life Clarity Call at Lesada.

During your Life Clarity Call, you will gain insight as to what your next step should be, develop an action plan to get you there, as it fits into your everyday life and also learn how to appreciate how far you have traveled on your journey already!

Your 60 Minute Life Clarity Call is only $73.50 CAN + tax. There is no need to feel stuck! Revive the passion that is inside youand set out on the next step towards living your true life!

Out of the Closet: Relationship Tips for Crossdressers and Transgender Women

Out of the Closet: Relationship Tips for Crossdressers and Transgender Women

Dresses, skirts, lingerie and shoes – where do you put all the shoes?! It doesn’t take long for a closet to fill up. The more cluttered it gets, the harder it is to tell what’s there and what fits beautifully on you.

The same can be said for the metaphorical closet. The longer you keep yourself hidden, the harder it is to see who you really are. That is a great loss to yourself and to your partner. Hiding who you are takes a lot of energy that is better spent on keeping the sparkle in your relationship and enriching your experiences in life. Hiding who you are also causes a lot of stress and unnecessary strain on you and your relationships.

If you are concerned that your secret life will hurt someone you care about, or that they will think less of you, consider instead that they are missing the opportunity of knowing the truly beautiful person you are. You are actually robbing them of the opportunity to love you completely.

The exciting thing about being in love is wanting to know everything you can about the person who makes your heart sing. You want to know their private intimacies, how they think, what turns them on, their history and story that made them who they are. You want to know these things because you love them and want to give them the best. Why would they not want the same of you?

I encourage you to love yourself first. Loving who you are, without shame, loving the whole you, frees your spirit so you can grow to be all that you are meant to be. What a gift to give yourself! What a gift to give your partner!

There are far too many crossdressers and transgender women in the closet. I have heard enough stories about secrets, but I have also heard many stories of success. Secrets hurt and indicate shame. Being yourself is not shameful. It’s time to come out of the closet, clear the clutter and make room for more shoes!

 

Here are some tips from couples on how to incorporate your feminine side into a successful, loving relationship:

  • Great journeys begin with a single step. If you have a huge fantasy of being a woman, full time with your wife, but you haven’t told her yet, start small! Do little things to gradually work up to your goal. Start by painting each other’s toe nails for example. Baby steps, baby steps.
  • Tell her you love her. Assure her that you love her as well as yourself, and that you will be a better partner to her if you don’t have secrets. Let her know that she is still the love of your life, even if you are seeking new friendships.
  • Compromise. Don’t push your partner to go beyond what she is willing to do. This may take a lot of getting used to on her part, especially if you’ve been the same in the relationship for many years.
  • Make it fun! People continue to do things when they are having fun, so be playful and loving while she discovers this new side of you. Maybe she could dress up and be someone different as well while you are en femme. Private secrets between just you too can be very fun!
  • Find friends. Join groups online, attend events or conferences that are non-sexual in nature so she can be assured that you aren’t deviating from your relationship with her.
  • Encourage her to seek out friends who are also in crossdressing/transgender relationships. Crossing Paths is a group just for her.
  • Seek a coach or mediator to guide you through this new phase of your relationship

A secret space in London, Ontario where dreams come true

A secret space in London, Ontario where dreams come true

Article from www.londonfuse.ca

The tiny garage at the end of Leanne Dargie’s driveway is utterly unremarkable. On the outside it appears to be a standard storage shed and nothing more.

But blending in often means hiding what’s really on the inside – something that Leanne, the owner of Lesada, knows all too well. Within this humdrum exterior exists a discreet makeover service for cross-dressers and male to female transgenders.

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