How to Keep Your Pretty Things Pretty!

Let’s face it, I know some some of you have all of your secret, pretty things hidden away in a duffle bag in the back reaches of your darkest closet! But when you get to pull them out, wouldn’t it be lovely if they were still beautiful and not a dusty, wrinkled mess? Here are a few tips to get organized and be pretty at the same time!

Choosing a Bag

Your bag should have several side pockets and a large interior opening. In this case, size does matter! Choose a bag that is much bigger than what you think you will need. This will allow your items enough room so they don’t get crushed as well as give you room to expand your collection. You will also want to get a cosmetic roll up bag. These bags have multiple pockets and roll up into a tight compact bag.   One more bag to invest in would be a velvet shoe bag. This will protect shoes from scratches. It will also protect all the rest of your items from getting poked by a high heel or getting dirty from the shoes.

Dividing Your Items

Separate your items first. Place all small items in a cosmetic bag. Items for this bag include jewellery, scarves, pantyhose, makeup, hair and nail accessories. Put shoes in a separate shoe bag. Wigs and breast forms should be stored in a box or zip closure bag with tissue paper. And last, separate your clothing, preferably into outfits. Skirts with blouses or slacks and tops that you wear together. This will save you time if you only have a a short time to dress, your outfits will be ready and waiting for you. You may also wish to place bras, panties and other lingerie all together in a pretty lace bag.

Packing Your Bag

Use the exterior pockets for lingerie, pantyhose and scarves. The cosmetic roll up will fit into the exterior end pockets. Reserve one side of your bag interior for heavier items like shoes and boxes. Carefully wrap all clothing in tissue paper and roll tightly. This not only saves you a ton of space, but, when done carefully, minimizes many wrinkles. There’s nothing worse than finally being able to slip into that silky blouse and finding it a wrinkled disgrace. Place clothing in other side of the bag interior. This should leave room on top for your purse or other accessories. One last thing you may want to add to your bag is a photo album. Include photos of yourself or inspirational photos to help you add to your secret bag.

Place a checklist on the very top of everything in your bag. This will assist you next time you dress so you don’t worry about leaving anything behind. Make sure you update your list as you add or delete items. This is especially helpful with small items like cosmetics and hair accessories.

Create a checklist to make sure you haven’t forgotten to pack anything after dressing.

Storing Your Bag

Finding a place to store your bag may be the trickiest part. Choose a location that is easily accessible. You want to be able to bring it out whenever you want. Easily accessible places may include a closet, your car, the garage, basement or other spot on your property. Just make sure your bag isn’t going to end up taking on a musty smell. Perfume doesn’t cover odours! Inserting a bag of lavender or freshening pouch in your bag will aide in odours.

If you don’t feel comfortable storing your bag on your property, you can rent a locker, use Lesada’s bag storage service or keep things at your office or a friend’s place. Where there is a will, there’s a way!

If you need to undress quickly, make sure to go back later and repack your bag with care for the next time you get to dress. Honouring the beauty of your clothes and belongings will strengthen the confidence you have in your own beauty. Taking the time to pack your bag with care will reduce stress during your special time of getting ready.

I hope you enjoyed this article, please comment below your tips for storing and packing your pretty things.

Feminizing Your Facebook

Social media is a fast paced world. People will decide in an instant what type of person you are by the profile you project. What does your Facebook profile say about you? Do you want to appear as a natural, feminine woman in real life? Do you want to make connections with real women? Then make sure your online image matches that persona. Read on to discover the do’s and don’ts of feminizing your Facebook so you can attract female friends.

Facebook Photos

Don’t Overdo the Accessories. Many crossdressers tend to go overboard with too much makeup, jewellery, fake nails, lashes and big hair. Choose one aspect of your look to play up, and tone down the rest.

Don’t Wear Stereotypical Crossdresser Fashion. Facebook is not the place to wear fishnet stockings, 5″ heels and lingerie. This fashion screams “I’m a crossdresser!” Women do not wear those things in everyday life and they do not post photos like that on Facebook. Save those photos for private groups where that is allowed. Instead, take photos wearing a nice skirt and blouse, jeans and a t-shirt, or just a head shot with a beautiful smile!

Do Vary Your Settings. Photos should be taken in a variety of settings to give the impression that you are a real woman, doing real, everyday things. Avoid taking photos in the bedroom or bathroom. Instead, take photos of you doing things like going out for dinner or hanging out with friends. If you’re not at that point in your feminization journey, take photos in the living room, on your balcony or porch, out in the garden, or even in your kitchen. No one wants to see your toilet!

take photos in a variety of settings

Don’t Show Photos of your Private Parts! I get so many friend requests from obvious crossdressers who are posed in the face down, bum up position. Another common crossdresser pose is just the legs in stockings and high heels, or a chest/boob shot. Women do not photograph themselves in this manner, nor are they interested in being friends with people who do. If you want to appear as a natural woman on Facebook, you should avoid these poses at all costs.

Avoid stereotypical crossdresser poses

Facebook Profile Attributes

Do Select a Common Name. Another dead giveaway that you are a crossdresser and not a natural woman could be your name. A name like Misty Waters or Suzi Stockings is certainly not a natural woman’s name. While it may be more boring, a natural name will increase your female persona by 100%! Don’t choose a drag queen name unless you are a drag queen!

Do Follow a Variety of Pages and Businesses. It’s public knowledge what pages, groups and interests you have on Facebook. If all you follow is crossdresser interests, you will give off the persona of a crossdresser. Add other interests into the mix. This will expand your profile to appear as a natural woman and increase your chances of connecting with real women. Some womanly things to join in on could be networking groups, mom to mom buy and sell groups, fashion groups, or any of your own interests like fishing, golf, cooking, and so on.

Be Part of the Facebook Community

Do Like and Comment Positively. If you’re trying to attract people to your profile, be positive! Social media is not the platform on which to complain or stir up the pot. Make others feel good about their posts and you will be well on your way to being a natural woman.

Do Contribute to the Groups you Belong to. Contributing in groups is a great way to make connections and new friends. I have met several of my close friends through social media and it’s because we both contributed to groups and found we shared common views and humour. When you put yourself out there, you are bound to make new friends.

Do add a Variety of Friends. Women have a large variety of types of friends on their Facebook friend list. Friends could include business contacts, family, personal friends, friends of friends, people we’ve only met through Facebook or people in the community who we look up to. Check out your friend list and if everyone else is a crossdresser, it’s time to make some more friends with more interests.

Do Positive, Inspiring and Fun! If you want to attract female friends and others on Facebook, you must be a person who emits positivity. If you’re having trouble doing this right now, find some cartoons, positive quotes or articles that you can share until your own positive vibes start flowing.

With these guidelines in place, you will be well on your way to projecting a natural womanly image into the world of social media. What tip did you like best? Comment below! And don’t forget to Like Lesada on Facebook for more great tips!

Join a variety of groups to create a positive Facebook Community

Urge to Purge

Lindsay recounted wistfully the details of a beautiful white pantsuit she used to own. It fit her perfectly and made her feel like a million bucks. But it was lost to a purge.

Ashley had an insanely gorgeous champagne coloured ball gown that had pearls around the bodice. It too, went out to the second hand shop in a wild purge that she regrets to this day.

What possessed these girls to discard their beautiful belongings, then regret it so much?

A Personal Story of Purging

Rachel, a 37 year-old closet crossdresser spent hours online shopping for specialty themed outfits. She wanted the hot mom look – tight leggings, an off-the-shoulder cropped sweat top, bangle bracelets and pink eye shadow. Then there was the ballgown phase – huge hair, tiaras, sparkling chandelier earrings and a sparkly fitted gown with miles of tulle and rhinestones. Oh, and we can’t forget the sexy, businesswoman wardrobe! It wouldn’t be complete without a tight pencil skirt, button down white shirt blouse and a pair of sexy glasses. So much stuff!!!

It was so fun checking the mailbox and having a parcel arrive almost daily!

Exciting Packages!!!

 

Until the credit card bill arrived one day in the mailbox amongst the packages.

Rachel was horrified to see how much she had spent on herself and the ‘silly’ purchases she had made. Most of the things she bought were cheaply made and didn’t even fit right. They had brought a thrill to her when she was opening up the packages, but also stressed her out that someone would find her beautiful things.

She decided “once and for all” that she was never going to shop online again. She decided she was stupid for buying all these girly things and she should just forget it all. Rachel believed she would never be passable. And she definitely would never get a girlfriend if they knew this side of her, she thought.

And in one big fit of self doubt and personal anger, she gathered every last shred of girlyness into a giant garbage bag and drove to the clothing donation bin.

The lid slammed with an echo of finality.

The Reasoning Behind The Purge

Many closet crossdressers, like Rachel, Lindsay and Ashley, are ashamed of their feminine side. They are constantly battling against how they feel inside and how they want people to perceive them as men. They feel that if anyone were to find out they enjoy wearing ballgowns or tiaras or short skirts, their world as they know it would be lost. In their male world they hold down very masculine jobs, such as construction workers and truck drivers, or high powered, high stress careers like lawyers or emergency responders. A lot of crossdressers are also business owners, husbands and fathers. They are ashamed to reveal their feminine longings to others.

Many crossdressers are ashamed of their feminine longings.

It is for this reason, that a purge of all feminine belongings occurs. And sometimes quite often.

The fear of getting caught with a closet full of women’s clothes, wigs, high heels, and other lady-like accessories instigates a mass purge, followed by massive regret.

How to Resist the Urge to Purge

If you are like one of the girls in this article, you are probably wondering how to feel good about your purchases, love your girly belongings and not fight who you truly are. Here are a few tips to overcome the urge to purge.

  • Limit your purchases. When you carefully select items to add to your collection, rather than buying everything in sight, you will feel more confident about your purchases and keep spending habits in check.
  • Don’t buy mix-matched articles. When making a purchase, choose items that will complement each other. If you buy a top, get a skirt to match. You won’t regret having a pile of clothes that look like they were picked out by a three year old girl playing dress up.
  • Store your items lovingly. If your belongings are packed with care, you may be less likely to garbage them.
  • If you are susceptible to purging, write a note to your future self, reminding you how much you love and need those items to be your true, happy self. Place the note with some photos on the top of your bag or on your closet door.
Remind yourself how happy you were when you were being your true self!
  • Tell a trusted friend. When you reveal your secret to just one person, it doesn’t seem as scary.
  • Rent a storage locker. If you are afraid a new girlfriend, wife or parent is going to come across your secret stash, store it somewhere more private, yet still accessible. (Lesada offers storage in London, Ontario for a very nominal fee!)
  • Purge in small quantities. We all make regrettable purchases from time to time, especially online. If you bought items that don’t fit or don’t suit you, get rid of those things. Make sure your next purchases are items that will match and work with your articles that make you feel great.
  • Speak with Leanne, Transformation Maven and Life Coach. If you are fighting the urge to purge because you are ashamed of who you truly are, you are not alone. Leanne specializes in coaching crossdressers to value their self worth and confidence. Book a Free 15 Minute Call or in-depth 60 Minute Life Clarity Call today!

Have you ever regretted a purge? Tell your story in the comments below.

 

 

 

 

Summer Fashion Beat the Heat for Crossdressers

Crossdressing in the Summer can be sweltering! Wig, breast forms, bras, waist cinchers, butt pads, long sleeves to cover arm hair, two layers of stockings to cover leg hair, and makeup melting on your face, it’s not a pretty sight in the unrelenting summer heat. So what can a girl do to stay cool and fresh? These Summer Fashion clothing tips are sure to keep you cool as you enjoy the summer fun.

Free your Feet for Summer Fashion

  • Paint your toenails a bright, bold colour to make a hot summer fashion statement. Coral, teal, red or neon pink are guaranteed to make a splash! If you think your feet or toenails are too big and will appear manly, minimize the size by creating a design, or use two different colours on one nail. If your nails are highlighted with colour, the eye will be drawn there, not to the rest of your foot.
  • Wear open toed sandals, flip flops or flats. Summer is for running, swimming, hanging out with friends by a campfire. There is no need to look like you walked off the runway in sky-high heels! Ditch the heels and tread lightly in some fun, light footwear.
Minimize the size with a design or two-tone colours

Show Off Those Legs! (Or Not)

  • If you got it, flaunt it! If you opt to shave your legs, all the power to you! Wear skirts, shorts or sundresses to reveal what’s been hidden all winter.
  • If shaving your legs is not an option, you don’t have to swelter in the heat under layers of stockings. Instead, choose a long, floor length, flowy dress or skirt. Also look for bright, bold patterns or pleats to hide any other manly body parts, excess weight or other things you usually try to cram into a pair of stockings! Fabrics should be heavy enough to not be see-through, but light enough to be breathable.
  • Show off your enviable leg-length and be in hot Summer Fashion with elastic, high-waisted, straight-legged pants. It doesn’t matter what colour, dark or light, these types of pants are sure to keep you loose, cool and feeling sexy.

 

High waisted elastic pants are cool and flowy
Long, bold patterned skirts hide many manly body features

Waist Cinchers and Corsets be Gone!

  • Breathe a sigh of relief from the heat! Ditch the cincher and choose breathable Summer Fashion instead. Bamboo is a revolutionary fabric that wicks moisture away and keeps you cool.
  • Opt for optical illusions! Look for dresses and clothing styles that create the illusion of curves. Search for dresses that have colourful fronts and backs with darker sides. Other options to create waist curves are belts, side ruching, decorative buckles and bows.
Give yourself instant curves with a silhouette illusion dress
Create an hourglass figure with ruching and belts

Summer Fashion to Cover your Arms

  • Sweaters and long sleeves aren’t really an option in the summer heat. To cover muscular or hairy arms and shoulders, try a light wrap. A large silky scarf or lightly knitted poncho are great, airy summer options.
  • Instead of hiding your shoulders, highlight them with peasant type blouses or off-the shoulder tops. This Summer Fashion adds a flirtiness to your look while keeping you cool.
  • Go lacy if you need the comfort of long sleeves. Choose a dark colour to hide hair, or go for a lighter look with whites and creams.
a lacy top over a bright tank will cover up, but stay cool
Wear a light beach cover-up to stay cool, yet fashionable
Highlight your shoulders with a blousy, long sleeve off-the-shoulder top

Summer Fashion Accessories

  • Accessorize your look with hats, bags, jewellery, scarves, fun belts and don’t forget sunglasses!
  • Remember the hottest summer look you can rock is a smile, so wear yours boldly and get out there in the Summer Heat, with these awesome Summer Fashion hits!
  • Check out Summer Beauty tips for Crossdressers to Beat the Heat for great makeup tips to keep your face from melting this summer.

Comment below your favourite tip or summer fashion secret!

 

Shoe Shopping Guide for Crossdressers

Your Online Shoe Shopping Guide

With so much selection, how do you even begin to decide what shoes will help you put your best foot forward? Use the following filters to walk with ease through the selection process from toe to heel!

Shoe Sizing

If you can, it’s best to have your foot measured for the perfect fit. If you know your size in men’s wear, your size will most likely be 1.5-2 sizes larger in ladies.

Occasion

Next, it is best to decide when and where you will most often be wearing your new shoes. This will really help narrow down the type of shoe you are looking for, thus simplifying your search. It’s no use looking at sandals or open toe shoes if you plan to wear your shoes in the winter! Or, if you want to wear your shoes with a formal gown, you do not have to search among ballet flats.

Shoe Colour

Deciding on the colour you want ahead of time will also filter out a great deal in the shoe selection process. If you want a pair of shoes that will go with most outfits, stick with black, brown or beige. These colours aren’t nearly as exciting, but can be dressed up with accessories (see below). If you want a pair of statement shoes, try red, hot pink or electric blue.

With these basic filters in place, your online shoe shopping experience will be streamlined so you can have fun looking at all the options! Read on to see what else will help you find the perfect shoe so you can put your best foot forward!

Toe Style

Women’s shoes have a wide range of toe styles to suit everyone’s desires. Toe styles include:

  • Peep Toe: a closed upper portion on the toe area, with a small opening to show off the toes. It is recommended to wear peep toe in the summer with toe nail polish.
  • Closed Toe: no opening at all in toe area
  • Rounded Toe: closed toe that is rounded off, will shorted the look of your foot
  • Pointed Toe: closed toe that extends beyond the natural toe line, making the foot appear longer than it actually is.

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Shoe Body Style

Body type should hold as much importance as heel and toe style. Unfortunately you can’t filter out body style when searching online, but keep it in mind when you are looking. Body style of a shoe really affects the look of the length of your foot. If you are wanting to diminish the length of your foot, go for styles with straps. Straps will break up the expanse of your foot. Styles to look for are T-Strap, Thong or ones that have designs along the edge (see below). Also, you could go for an open body shoe, but add an ankle strap. An ankle strap will create the illusion of less space between ankle and leg.

Alternatively, if you are wanting to make your feet and legs look longer, opt for an open shoe style that allows a continuous space from toe to leg, such as the classic Pump or Stiletto.

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Heel Style

The last element to look for when choosing a shoe, is heel style. Super tall high heels may be sexy, but not if you are wobbling around and breaking your ankles! Know your limits and choose a heel style that you will feel comfortable in.

Platform shoes add 3.5-5″ to your height, so if you are wanting to down-play your stature, stick with a 1-2″ kitten heel or go up to 3″ with a pump or stiletto. If you want to dress up a pair of jeans or a cute little skirt, a ballet flat will be all you need to help you zip around town to run errands.

You should never drive while wearing a platform shoe or stiletto, as your heel could easily catch under the car pedal or on the floor mats. If you are driving to a function where you are going to wear heels, toss them in a bag to slip on later and wear a more practical shoe to drive and walk in.

Shoe Accessories

Check out all the fun shoe accessories available to turn your basic pumps into something stylish and fun! Choose from rhinestones, feathers, pom-poms, bows and more to clip on and help you put your best foot forward!

Happy Shoe Shopping!

How To Pack Like Pro

How to Pack Like Pro

How To Pack To Keep Your Pretty Things Pretty

Let’s face it, crossdressers have secret, pretty things hidden away in a duffle bag in the back reaches of their closet! But wouldn’t it be lovely if your items were still beautiful and not a dusty, wrinkled mess after being in storage? Here are a few tips on how to pack like a pro to keep your pretty things pretty!

Your bag should be large enough to hold everything, with several exterior and interior pockets. Separate your shoes, jewellery, cosmetics, wigs, clothes, padding into appropriate storage within your bag. 

How to Pack Everyday Items

  • How to Pack Shoes: Put shoes in a velvet shoe bag or an exterior pocket. Shoes will be protected from dust. Everything else in your bag will be protected from getting poked by a high heel!
  • How to Pack Small Items: All make up, jewellery, hair & nail accessories, scarves, pantyhose, slips, panties, etc can be stored in a cosmetic roll up bag.  It’s amazing how much these roll ups hold! Find what you are looking for quickly in a bag with clear pockets.
  • How to Pack cosmetics: Cosmetics should be stored in a cosmetic roll up bag as well. Divide everything into the different pockets in categories. Foundations, concealers and blush in one pocket; eye makeup in another; lipstick in a third and disposable applicators, sponges, Q-tips, brushes, etc in the last pocket. Everything will be clean, organized and you will save tons of time by not searching for things when you are getting dressed.
  • How to Pack Clothes: Carefully wrap all clothing in tissue paper and roll tightly. This not only saves you a ton of space, but, when done carefully, minimizes many wrinkles. There’s nothing worse than finally being able to slip into that silky blouse and finding it a wrinkled disgrace. Look for synthetic fabrics that are wrinkle-resistant.

How to Pack Feminization Items

  • How to Pack Wigs: Wigs should be kept in a pretty, decorative cardboard box or zip closure bag. Place a wad of tissue paper inside the cap of the wig, wrap a hairnet around the entire wig. Pack tissue paper around it before placing in the bag or box.  Do this to minimize static and keep your wig from becoming crushed or tangled.
  • How to Pack Padding: Silicone breast forms and other pads should be wrapped in bubble wrap and placed in an interior or exterior pocket in your duffle bag. Keep them away from high heel shoes or disaster could strike!
  • Add a photo album to your bag with photos of yourself or inspirational photos to help you when you are looking to add to your secret bag.

With these basic practices in place, you will love unpacking your secrets and will feel pretty in the process! Take care of your lovely things and honour them in the way they deserve.