The Hairstyle For YOU!

As a transgender woman, you may have decided to grow your hair long. During this time, and after it has reached a certain length, you will want to see a hairdresser to have it styled. Read on to learn how to find a hairdresser who understands your needs and how to discuss your desired hairstyle so you get the look you want. We will also look at what hairstyles are best suited for thinning or receding hairlines.

Finding a Stylist

The first step to having a great hairstyle is having a great stylist! Most woman have used the same hairdresser for many years. They have built a bond with their stylist and have placed a lot of trust in them. I have been seeing my stylist, Ashley, for at least 20 years! So of course I turned to her for help with this article. If you see a woman with a great hairstyle, compliment her and ask for a referral. I’m sure she will gladly recommend where she goes. Don’t be surprised if you have to wait over a month to get an appointment though. A good hairdresser is busy and her schedule fills up quickly. Most women make their regular appointments in advance, so be prepared to wait for an opening.

You could also call a well-known salon, local hairdressing school or visit a walk-in only chain store to find a stylist. The only problem with walk-in salons is that you aren’t guaranteed to get the same stylist again, since they don’t take appointments.

Hairstyling on my wedding day. I’d only trust such a special day to a 20 year relationship!

Finding a Hairstyle

Your hairdresser will want to get to know you and what you’re looking for before she begins work on you. It will be best if you go to your appointment with photos. Ashley suggests consulting magazines, Pinterest or other images on the Internet. She also reminds us to be realistic when choosing a style. If your hair is only shoulder length, don’t choose a style that goes to your waist. Or, if you have straight hair, don’t choose a style that plays with a lot of waves and texture. If you are new to long hair, you may want to just start with a simple cut because blow drying, styling, curling, straightening, hairspraying and colouring take a lot of time and skill to maintain.

Ashley also recommends that you have an honest discussion with your hairdresser about your needs and wants as a transgender woman. If you aren’t far into your transitional journey, or are experiencing more masculine hair issues, make sure you have an open and honest discussion about it.

Hairstyle photos, along with the expertise of your hairdresser will go a long way in achieving the look you desire.

Best Hairstyle for Thinning Hair

Ashley recommends combing hair back to cover a thinning crown. You can “tease” hair back to add volume and lift in upper thinning areas. You may also want to consider extensions. If the area in concern is very thin, small hairpieces are available to glue or pin in place. Make sure if you are getting extensions or a hairpiece that it is an exact match to your natural hair colour.

If your sides are thinning, a side part with swooping bangs will work with and dramatize your look. You could even grow your hair long on one side and shave the other side for a dramatic effect.

Side part and side styling will work well with receding sides.

Put your faith in your stylist and she will encourage an amazing hairstyle for you.

How Much Does it Cost?

When it comes to hairstyles, men and women are not equal in the cost. Woman can expect to pay at least $35 for a haircut, with additional add-ons for blow drying and styling. If you want your hair coloured or extensions applied, it can be well over $100. Have the discussion with your stylist before she does anything so there are no surprises. Plan to spend at least 45 minutes at your appointment for just a cut. This includes time for washing, cutting, drying and styling, and of course some gossiping!

Caring for Your Hairstyle at Home

After leaving the salon with your beautiful new look, you will need some products to assist in home styling. Some basic products to have on hand are hairspray, voluminizing spray or powder, bobby pins, and of course a comb or brush and shampoo & conditioner. With so many products and brands available, consult your hairdresser for what’s best for your hair. She may have products available for you to purchase there, or you can visit your local drugstore or beauty supply shop.

Recently I made an appointment with Ashley just so she could teach me a few ways to style my hair. I paid her for her time even though she didn’t cut my hair or do anything different to it. It was well worth it to gain knowledge and confidence. I was feeling like a little kid, just putting my hair in a barrette, but now I feel like a polished woman in my look.

When it comes to hairstyles, communication is key. Be honest about what you want. Tell your hairdresser what you don’t like and any problems you are experiencing. Work together to come up with a manageable beautiful solution. Build a relationship with each other and don’t forget to have fun with the process!

More About Ashley

Ashley, is an inspiration to me. She has a tattoo that says “I am the strongest girl I know.” And it’s true. She is the strongest girl I know. She is also the most accepting, fun and beautiful woman I know. So of course I would recommend her to you. You can find Ashley at Hairport & Layover Luxuries in Simcoe, Ontario. The phone number there is 519 426-8292 and Ashley’s facebook page is Hairport & Layover Luxuries. She would be more than happy to help you with your transition in hairstyles and makeup.

Summer Fashion Beat the Heat for Crossdressers

Crossdressing in the Summer can be sweltering! Wig, breast forms, bras, waist cinchers, butt pads, long sleeves to cover arm hair, two layers of stockings to cover leg hair, and makeup melting on your face, it’s not a pretty sight in the unrelenting summer heat. So what can a girl do to stay cool and fresh? These Summer Fashion clothing tips are sure to keep you cool as you enjoy the summer fun.

Free your Feet for Summer Fashion

  • Paint your toenails a bright, bold colour to make a hot summer fashion statement. Coral, teal, red or neon pink are guaranteed to make a splash! If you think your feet or toenails are too big and will appear manly, minimize the size by creating a design, or use two different colours on one nail. If your nails are highlighted with colour, the eye will be drawn there, not to the rest of your foot.
  • Wear open toed sandals, flip flops or flats. Summer is for running, swimming, hanging out with friends by a campfire. There is no need to look like you walked off the runway in sky-high heels! Ditch the heels and tread lightly in some fun, light footwear.
Minimize the size with a design or two-tone colours

Show Off Those Legs! (Or Not)

  • If you got it, flaunt it! If you opt to shave your legs, all the power to you! Wear skirts, shorts or sundresses to reveal what’s been hidden all winter.
  • If shaving your legs is not an option, you don’t have to swelter in the heat under layers of stockings. Instead, choose a long, floor length, flowy dress or skirt. Also look for bright, bold patterns or pleats to hide any other manly body parts, excess weight or other things you usually try to cram into a pair of stockings! Fabrics should be heavy enough to not be see-through, but light enough to be breathable.
  • Show off your enviable leg-length and be in hot Summer Fashion with elastic, high-waisted, straight-legged pants. It doesn’t matter what colour, dark or light, these types of pants are sure to keep you loose, cool and feeling sexy.

 

High waisted elastic pants are cool and flowy
Long, bold patterned skirts hide many manly body features

Waist Cinchers and Corsets be Gone!

  • Breathe a sigh of relief from the heat! Ditch the cincher and choose breathable Summer Fashion instead. Bamboo is a revolutionary fabric that wicks moisture away and keeps you cool.
  • Opt for optical illusions! Look for dresses and clothing styles that create the illusion of curves. Search for dresses that have colourful fronts and backs with darker sides. Other options to create waist curves are belts, side ruching, decorative buckles and bows.
Give yourself instant curves with a silhouette illusion dress
Create an hourglass figure with ruching and belts

Summer Fashion to Cover your Arms

  • Sweaters and long sleeves aren’t really an option in the summer heat. To cover muscular or hairy arms and shoulders, try a light wrap. A large silky scarf or lightly knitted poncho are great, airy summer options.
  • Instead of hiding your shoulders, highlight them with peasant type blouses or off-the shoulder tops. This Summer Fashion adds a flirtiness to your look while keeping you cool.
  • Go lacy if you need the comfort of long sleeves. Choose a dark colour to hide hair, or go for a lighter look with whites and creams.
a lacy top over a bright tank will cover up, but stay cool
Wear a light beach cover-up to stay cool, yet fashionable
Highlight your shoulders with a blousy, long sleeve off-the-shoulder top

Summer Fashion Accessories

  • Accessorize your look with hats, bags, jewellery, scarves, fun belts and don’t forget sunglasses!
  • Remember the hottest summer look you can rock is a smile, so wear yours boldly and get out there in the Summer Heat, with these awesome Summer Fashion hits!
  • Check out Summer Beauty tips for Crossdressers to Beat the Heat for great makeup tips to keep your face from melting this summer.

Comment below your favourite tip or summer fashion secret!

 

How to Wig Care

wig display

Caring for your wig is simple if done regularly and properly. No matter if your wig is “cheap” or more expensive, you can extend it’s life using these easy care instructions.

How to Brush Your Wig

Using a wide-tooth comb or brush, comb from the tips of hair to the cap. Do not yank knots from top to bottom! You will lose hairs this way.

wide tooth brush
Use a plastic open-tooth brush or comb on your wig

Work in small sections to remove knots and tangles. If it’s matted underneath, turn the cap inside out and comb from back to front. To make the job easier,  hang wig on a wig stand, stair newel post or other object so both of your hands are free.

 

Turn wig inside out to comb tangles underneath

How to Wash Your Wig

You should wash your wig after 8-10 wearings or if you have been sweating while wearing your wig.

  1. Add shampoo to a basin of COLD water to create a lather.
  2. Soak wig in shampoo water for 5-10 minutes, stirring gently. DO NOT twist or tangle your wig.
  3. After soaking, remove wig from basin, squeezing from top to bottom to remove excess water. DO NOT twist or wring out water, just squeeze.
  4. Rinse thoroughly under running water until all shampoo is removed. Squeeze water out, roll in a towel and squeeze again.
  5. Spray with conditioner (about 9-15 pumps depending on length of wig) This softens hair and reduces static.
  6. Shake the wig vigorously to disperse conditioner and remove any excess water.
  7. Lay flat on a towel to dry.
  8. Comb and re-style after wig is completely dry.

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How to Re-Style Your Wig

After washing, any curls or waves that were in your wig should bounce back. Wind small clumps of hair around your fingers to encourage curls back into place when hair is still a little damp. You may want to try a styling tool, such as a curling iron or straightener, but test a small piece of hair first for heat resistance. If you have any loose hairs in your hair brush from brushing, use those for your test.

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How to Store Your Wig

Between wearings, there are a couple ways you can store your wig to keep it clean, static free and in good shape. If your wig is short, turn it inside out and place into a zip-closure bag or box. If your wig is long, stuff the cap with tissue paper, wrap a hairnet around the outside and place in a zip-closure bag or box. You may also wish to display your wig on a wig display stand or mannequin head if you wear it often.

 

 

 

 

How To Pack Like Pro

How to Pack Like Pro

How To Pack To Keep Your Pretty Things Pretty

Let’s face it, crossdressers have secret, pretty things hidden away in a duffle bag in the back reaches of their closet! But wouldn’t it be lovely if your items were still beautiful and not a dusty, wrinkled mess after being in storage? Here are a few tips on how to pack like a pro to keep your pretty things pretty!

Your bag should be large enough to hold everything, with several exterior and interior pockets. Separate your shoes, jewellery, cosmetics, wigs, clothes, padding into appropriate storage within your bag. 

How to Pack Everyday Items

  • How to Pack Shoes: Put shoes in a velvet shoe bag or an exterior pocket. Shoes will be protected from dust. Everything else in your bag will be protected from getting poked by a high heel!
  • How to Pack Small Items: All make up, jewellery, hair & nail accessories, scarves, pantyhose, slips, panties, etc can be stored in a cosmetic roll up bag.  It’s amazing how much these roll ups hold! Find what you are looking for quickly in a bag with clear pockets.
  • How to Pack cosmetics: Cosmetics should be stored in a cosmetic roll up bag as well. Divide everything into the different pockets in categories. Foundations, concealers and blush in one pocket; eye makeup in another; lipstick in a third and disposable applicators, sponges, Q-tips, brushes, etc in the last pocket. Everything will be clean, organized and you will save tons of time by not searching for things when you are getting dressed.
  • How to Pack Clothes: Carefully wrap all clothing in tissue paper and roll tightly. This not only saves you a ton of space, but, when done carefully, minimizes many wrinkles. There’s nothing worse than finally being able to slip into that silky blouse and finding it a wrinkled disgrace. Look for synthetic fabrics that are wrinkle-resistant.

How to Pack Feminization Items

  • How to Pack Wigs: Wigs should be kept in a pretty, decorative cardboard box or zip closure bag. Place a wad of tissue paper inside the cap of the wig, wrap a hairnet around the entire wig. Pack tissue paper around it before placing in the bag or box.  Do this to minimize static and keep your wig from becoming crushed or tangled.
  • How to Pack Padding: Silicone breast forms and other pads should be wrapped in bubble wrap and placed in an interior or exterior pocket in your duffle bag. Keep them away from high heel shoes or disaster could strike!
  • Add a photo album to your bag with photos of yourself or inspirational photos to help you when you are looking to add to your secret bag.

With these basic practices in place, you will love unpacking your secrets and will feel pretty in the process! Take care of your lovely things and honour them in the way they deserve.